"I Want Balance" & Other Lies...

No one that says they want "balance" actually believes it’s possible - including you.

That’s because you’re smart, and smart people don’t believe in fairytales.

So why pretend that’s your aim? Why does everyone say they want the illusive (and impossible) ideal of “balance”?

I’m so glad you asked… 😉

Let’s say I want to learn to play Tennis,
What do you suppose my next steps might be?

Checking out where the local courts are, finding a Coach, buying equipment, looking for a partner, perhaps?

Next, imagine I told you I want to learn to Teleport,
What do you suspect I am doing about that?

Chances are, not a lot.

Keeping it illusive allows you to stay exactly where you are.

Pretending “balance” is the goal is your self-fulfilling prophecy at play. Which unconsciously sounds like:

“I don’t believe it’s possible *for me* to enjoy well-being *and* success, so if I pretend the only way there is balance, which is impossible, then I get to keep believing I can’t have it.”

(Less suspiciously, it’s also because culturally, we use that word a lot - but the fact remains that it’s keeping you disassociated from your potential solution.)

You’re holding yourself hostage to the belief that you can’t escape the unhealthy, unsustainable and unfulfilling reality you live now.

Overwork 
Self-sacrifice 
Exhausting discontent 
Consistent high-stress
Problematic lack of boundaries

The opposite of which is what you want:

Better boundaries
Intentional hours of work
Considering your needs a priority 
Occasional stress with a baseline of calm
Feelings content when you hit the pillow at night

That’s not necessarily “balanced”, but it *is* holistically productive, resourceful and healthy.

You don’t want balance.

You want internal harmony and a synergy between life and work that dances in a rhythm with the inevitable imbalance.

More specifically, that is…

→ A mindful focus that supports deep work and joyful play

→ A confident inner voice that reassures you you’ve done enough

→ A healthy ambition that isn’t chasing validation or highs from achievement 

→ Flexible boundaries that define when you’ll say no, delegate, and step away for the day

→ An inner knowing and trust that you aren’t letting people down by saying No, or Yes

It's less what you're doing and more so how you're doing it,
It's less the system and more your expectations of yourself,
It's less about changing others and more about how you lead yourself.

What you want *is* possible.

It just looks different to what you think.

Time to stop pretending you believe in fairytales.

Time you lived a life that doesn’t need fairytales to be fantastic.